Sex often starts by caressing, cuddling, kissing and licking each other, and stimulating each other’s erogenous zones (foreplay). When both partners are aroused, they may want to have sexual intercourse.
You can have vaginal sex in different ways:
- Vary positions: You can have sex lying, sitting, standing or squatting. For example, the man can be on top of the woman, the woman on top of the man or the man behind the woman.
- Vary movements in speed, rhythm and intensity.
Oral sex means stimulating the erogenous zones on your partner’s body with your mouth, lips and tongue.
- Oral sex with a woman: the partner licks, sucks, nibbles or gently bites the woman’s sexual organs. The clitoris, especially, is very sensitive.
- Oral sex with a man: the partner uses the mouth, tongue and lips to stimulate the man’s penis and scrotum.
There is a small risk of infecting your partner with an STI, or getting an STI from him/her, through oral sex:
Anal sex (anal sexual intercourse) is sex with penetration of someone’s anus with a hard penis. A man or woman can also penetrate the anus with his/her finger or caress it.
You can infect your partner with an STI through anal sex:
Masturbation means giving yourself sexual pleasure by stimulating your own body, especially the vagina, clitoris, penis, nipples or anus, with your hands or sex toys. Partners can also masturbate each other.
Talking with your partner
You can have sex in different ways. Not everyone wants sex in the same way. Talk with your partner about it and come to an agreement.